What is virtual sex?
It includes any bang out of sexual activity on or with the internet.
Sweet emphasizes that sex is much broader than the typical view of penis-in-vagina penetration.
It also allows long-distance couples to create and maintain their intimacy from anywhere in the world.
Forms of virtual sex.
Risks of having virtual sex:
There’s no guarantee of privacy.
To engage in virtual sex, it’s important you know you’re risking your privacy.
Technology’s advancements make it easy for others to keep your sensitive content without you knowing, says Sweet.
It’s important to use a secure means of connection, “ideally something encrypted,” advises Cline.
That said, just because someone promises to keep your content safe doesn’t mean they will.
There’s almost no way to guarantee your privacy during virtual sex.
There may be legal issues around some forms of virtual sex.
Even searching for child pornography is considered illegal.
Navigating consent can be more difficult.
Like with any other form of sex, virtual sex requires consent from all involved parties.
“And that’s a really important distinction.”
Remember: If it’s not a full yes, it’s a no.
Tips for how to have safe, hot virtual sex.
At your next session, spice things up with one (or more!)
of these tips:
Ask first.
Invite your partner into the experience, being transparent about what you’re expecting to happen.
(Here’s our full guide onhow to talk dirty.)
Go at the pace of the slowest person.
During virtual sex, it’s everyone’s responsibility to foster a safe environment.
Do only the things that you actually want to do.
“We should be doing what turns us on and gets us off.”
Feel free to end the session immediately.
Use a different phone number.
Get creative with lighting.
Plus, you’ll feel really sexy.
Engage your senses.
Some ways to do that:
Play music.
During video or phone sex, consider putting on some sexy tunes in the background.
Try the green, yellow, red game.
When trying something new, ongoing consent is important to maintain everyone’s satisfaction and comfort.
Green means go, yellow is caution, and red means stop.
Wear a mask.
Bring in sex toys.
Plus, that means you and your partner masturbate together, says Geter.
Make it a party.
Why limit the fun to one person?
This could be highly pleasurable for those in open or polyamorous relationships, or anyone interested in group sex.
Virtual can sex can be anything you want it to be!
