Unmet emotional needs can trigger certain behaviors that at face value may seem like other issues.
You venture to minimize your needs.
You’re withdrawing.
You’re picking fights.
You’re seeking attention elsewhere.
How to move forward if your partner isn’t meeting your needs.
Step 1: Identify your needs.
First, check in with yourself and uncover what your emotional needs actually are.
“How can your partner understand what you need and want if you don’t understand yourself?
Do an emotional needs inventory on yourselfbe honest about what you needand update it often.”
Step 2: Communicate those needs clearly.
Step 3: Provide a solution.
In many cases, a partner believes they are helping out, but they’re actually missing the mark.
I know you’re trying to help, but I really need to sit with these feelings right now.
Are you willing to sit with me while I cry?'"
Step 4: Designate a time to check in.
“Designate time to check in without any distractions, especially screens,” says Ross.
“Make it sacred, and agree not to engage with anything but each other.”
Step 5: Remember you may need to look outside your relationship.
“[They] really can’t help you with all of the validation or kudos you may desire.
Getting your emotional needs met is important to both your relationship and your personal well-being.
