If you don’t like oral sex, you’re not alone.
A lot of women have a hard time relaxing during oral.
Below are a few common reasons you might not enjoy oral sex.
The good news is, the challenges can be addressed if it’s important to you.
That key in of stimulation just isn’t interesting to you.
Some people just don’t enjoy that tongue-on-clit feeling, and that’s totally OK!
You might be someone who prefers more manual stimulation (fingers are much firmer and less slobbery!
), vibration from toys, or penetrative intercourse.
There’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sexyou like what you like.
If there’s something you don’t enjoy, you don’t need to force yourself to enjoy it.
Find the things you do like and focus on doing those things.
(Here’s our guide onhow to give passionate oral sex.
You may also enjoy incorporatingtantric yoni massage.)
That means learning to love its shape, size, color, and smell.
give a shot to begin to see oral sex as a form of worship.
Allow your partner to worship you as the goddess you are.
How to love your vagina.
It can be helpful to get to know the beautiful diversity of what different people’s vulvas look like.
Most people’s self-consciousness is actually related to their vulva’s look and feel.)
Don’t compare yours to porn star vaginas.
They’re not supposed to look realisticthey’re an exaggerated fantasy version of a vulva.
Take a peek atThe Vulva Galleryto get more familiar with what vulvas can look like.
Spoiler alert: There’s no one shape, size, or color!
You might also benefit from grabbing a hand mirror and spending some time looking at your own vulva.
How to feel confident going into oral sex.
One way to do that is through myOYoga workout.
The moves were created to activate your sexual energy.
Make micro-circles with your hips in both directions.
As you do that, squeeze your Kegel muscles to really pump up your sexual energy.
Add in hip tiltsfront and backto really get your juices flowing.
During oral sex, practice breathing into orgasmic feelings.
Let the breath out and let it all go.
It’s an intimacy issue.
For her, sex was a way of numbing out an overactive mind and past trauma.
It was hard for her to relax and receive.
Be honest with yourself and with your partner about what is going on in the relationship.
Your sex life is a reflection of your romantic life.
