My response is always the same: “Have they asked you for advice?”
Of course, their answer is always “no.”
Not only did he resist my help, but he stopped being my friend because of my un-asked-for advice.
They generally got defensive, or argued with me and went into resistance, or left the friendship.
I could not understand why they didn’t want my great wisdom!
These people obviously care, but they don’t realize that offering unsolicited advice is rarely experienced as caring.
Ultimately, we are helpless over others' choicesand we need to accept that.
Helplessness over others' choices is one of the hardest feelings to feel.
These days, I never offer advice unless I’m asked for it.
Now I train them to trust their own inner knowing about what is right for them.
They are often quite surprised when they receive answers that bring them relief.
