The beginning of a relationship is full of butterflies.

What does early relationship anxiety look like?

Other ways this anxiety shows up in your actions?

Julia Guerra

It’s a way of putting out feelers to verify how the other person feels about the relationship.

Summary

Where does early relationship anxiety come from?

For example, let’s say you meet your S.O.

Kristina Hallett, Ph.D., ABPP

This relationship, in particular, makes you feel insecure for some reason.

Maybe you feel insecure around your S.O.

You and your new partner’s attachment styles don’t add up.

will ultimately determine howyoulove now.

So, how do you work through early relationship anxiety?

Ask yourself why you feel the way you do, instead of judging and criticizing your emotions.

Does your anxiousness stem from negative experiences in past relationships?

Or are they tied to something particular about this relationship and this person?

Be open with your partner about how you’re feeling.

“It can be helpful to tell your partner how you’re feeling,” she says.

“For one, it’s helpful to set a precedent of honesty and transparency.

Also, getting in the habit of asking for reassurances when you need them can be really helpful.”

“It’s not possible or healthy for one person to be your everything.”

Focus on the present moment and not the “what ifs” of the future.

In other words, hone in on how this new bond enhances your life in the present moment.