Aftercare is the time a couple devotes to cuddling, talking, and caring for each other after sex.
After sex, we’re particularly vulnerable.
We need to ensure that positive state of mind continues.
says licensed psychotherapist and couples therapistPam Saffer, LMFT.
“Prioritizing time [for] aftercare provides space to improveemotional intimacy, sharing and validating positive emotions.
After sex, after that delicious post-orgasmic high, your body can suddenly unearth the subconscious shame.
Aftercare helps to stave off the post-coital blues
Have you ever felt like crying after sex?
You know, when you have a truly amazing orgasm and then feel sad for no reason?
This is called “post-coital dysphoria,” or the post-sex blues.
It’s believed to come from the euphoric rush and sudden comedown that follows intense sexual pleasure.
It is the brain’s way of recalibrating.
Research has shown1that nearly half of men and women have experienced PCD at some point in their lives.
Aftercare is the salve that soothes these sad feelings.
“Aftercare routines can help them to feel close in a purposeful way.”
Whatever form of aftercare works for you is perfectly fine.
Just be sure you have a discussion about it before any sexy time takes place.
