Here’s what to know.
What it means to focus on yourself.
In turn, we feel a sense of approval and are soothed by the positive attention we receive.
“Allowing for personal space gives you room to grow personally.
Those who do this might bealone for a time, but they are rarely lonely.”
Why focusing on yourself is so important.
“Taking time and focusing on yourself means time for reflection.
Small ways to start focusing on yourself:
Find some form of solitude every day.
Get to know your inner voice.
What Torrent calls your “intrinsic goodness,” others might call yourinner voice.
Whatever you call it, think of it like your highest self.
When you might get in touch with your inner voice,who you really arewill become more clear.
Take calculated risks.
Figure out what makes you respect yourself.
To focus on yourself will subsequently allow you to cultivate agenuine respectfor who you are.
Be honest about who you are and who you aren’t.
As Dowling writes, “Lead with honesty.
Make a bucket list.
To that end, Torrent recommends making abucket list of experiencesyou’d like to have in your life.
Figure out (and keep) your boundaries.
Having firm boundaries is going to be essential if you truly want to focus on yourself.
But according to Torrent, knowing what yourboundariesareand keeping themis key.
Identify your growing edge.
Torrent suggests figuring out what your growing edge is and nurturing it.
Keep a journal.
Here’s ourfull guide to journalingif you’re just getting started.
Figure out what you’re passionate about.
The good news is, they can be rekindled, or even discovered for the first time.
Here’s more onhow to find your passion, in case you’re curious.
Choose a partner who respects you.
Practice mindfulness.
Consider talking with a therapist.
Torrent, of course, recommendsfinding a solid therapistyou can trust.
FAQ
How can I focus more on myself and less on others?
It’s important to assess your motivations for why you put others before yourself.
What would it mean to take a year to focus on myself?
How do I focus less on dating and relationships and more on myself?
Spend some time digging deeper into why you pour so much into your relationships and not enough into yourself.
This behavior can also be indicative of ananxious attachment style, which is usually an underlying fear of abandonment.
Start doing things for you and no one elsethis is how you find a truly healthy relationship anyway.
