Does your partner place an unusual amount of significance on the spoken and written word?
What are words of affirmation?
Find out which one best resonates with you.
“Love is the strongest and healthiest form of human bonding and belonging.
Language is a system of symbols and rules that people use to express and share meaning.
Words can be used as a way to tear someone down or build someone up.
“Appreciation is at the heart of having words of affirmation as a love language.
It recognizes quality over quantity and substance over appearance.
She adds, “It comes down to inclinationa person’s natural way to act or feel.
Some people need to hear or read love’s meaning, while others prefer to show not tell.
If you see a moment to encourage them in some way, go for it.
Chapman likens love languages to the analogy of filling a love tank.
Think about it this way: By refueling their appetite for affirmation (with the right fuel!
They will value it infinitely more when it comes from the heart.
Words areeverything.
“People are sensitive to what’s being said, not just how it comes out.
Meaning is everything, so choose your words carefully and mindfully in the moment.
Think before you speak.
Choose your words wisely.”
If you aren’t a natural wordsmith, don’t sweat it.
It’s normal to be tongue-tied if you aren’t naturally expressive with your words.
DeMarco suggests being yourself.
Get creative, be funny, and express yourself, in your voice.
“Show that you know them specifically, what they need to feel loved.
Love is not a one-size-fits-all.
Pay attention to what your partner responds to,” she says.
Rather, they’ll be appreciative of your effort that much more.”
The longer you wait to bring it up, the more you are delaying your own happiness.
Be clear about what you need.
Be calm in your affect.
Be confident in your being,” says DeMarco.
This act of vulnerability and you standing up for your needs can help intensify the trust in the relationship.
Speak to people where they’re at,” advises DeMarco.
By putting forth conscious effort, the relationship will feel more transcendental in its limitlessness.
