Despite what you might think, missionary doesn’t hold the title of Most Intimate Sex PositionTM.
The lotus sex position does.
Below, an overview of the lotus sex position and a few tips on how to master it.
The lotus sex position involves one partner sitting cross-legged, and the other facing them, straddling them.
Think “cowgirl” position (one person rides on top the other) but seated upright.
It offers the opportunity for kissing, full-body embraces, and nonstop eye contact.
“This is not a position for a fast fuck!
It lends itself better to slow lovemaking and a soulful connection.”
And with the lotus position, the clit is right there!
Lots of variation
Small adjustments and variations of the lotus sex position can create totally different sensations.
Get creative with it!
A chakra refers to a center of concentrated, spiritual energy throughout the body.
Great option for anal exploration
Doggy stylemay have the reputation as beingtheanal sex position.
But both Queen and Carrellas say that couldn’t belesstrue.
The lotus position is actually just the Western name forthemost famous tantric sex position: the yab-yum.
Meaning, simply getting into the lotus position doesn’t mean you’re having tantric sex.
)drop their bum onto the bed (or floor, or couch!)
and assume a crisscross applesauce position.
Facing them, have the second straddle them and lower down so that you’re both chest-to-chest and eye-to-eye.
What you do from here depends on your genital combination and sexual preferences.
And it’s all about slow, soulful lovemaking, she emphasizes.
So rather than fast thrusting, try slow rocking.
Even breathy moans, gasps, and heavy breathing go a long way in arousing your partner auditorily.
Lube is also a great addition to nipple stimulation.
Add a dab to your fingertips before circling the areola or flicking the nipple.
Add a sex toy
Vibrators up the ante on any sex position.
Something like the classicMagic WandorUnbound Benderare great for nonpenetrative play.
Try the draped lotus
Is the person on top super flexible?
Like, really intimate.
So if it’s starting to feeltoointimate (no judgment!
), tap into your inner Missy Elliot and flip it and reverse it.
Reverse Rider fans will recognize this iteration.
Another option for reduced intimacy: Place your hands behind you and lean back!
This also puts your clit or cock in position for extra loving.
“It’s trust of the highest order.”
So whether you love the lotus sex position or not, you’ll both walk away feeling more connected.
