Being ghostednever feels good, but a lesser-known dating infractioncalledbreadcrumbingmay actually be worse.
Ghosting, at the very least, provides a sense of finality.
What is breadcrumbing?
Breadcrumbingis a distinct way of leading someone on.
Breadcrumbing examples:
How to respond to breadcrumbing:
Know your worth.
Recognize what you want out of a relationship and that you deserve better than being strung along.
“Breadcrumbers tend to keep things distant on social media and other digital communication platforms,” she says.
“If they can’t commit, keep it moving.”
Be direct.
If they don’t respect your boundaries, they’re probably not interested in a real or healthy relationship.
Being direct will make their true intentions clear.
Push back.
Break unhealthy patterns before they start.
Decide what you want.
“If it is fun and interesting to you to engage with, go ahead!
If not, feel free to block.”
Why people do it.
People who leave dating breadcrumbs aren’t always aware they’re doing it.
In fact, Battle says it’s a pretty common aspect of dating.
According to Ajjan, insecurity and loneliness can also lead someone to breadcrumb without realizing they’re doing it.
These people need multiple “relationships” to boost their self-esteem.
They tend to convince themselves they aren’t doing anything wrong.
Worst of all are the people who purposefully breadcrumb to string others along.
Essentially, you’re beingkept as a backup.
The bottom line.
Breadcrumbing can be harmless and flirtatious but only if both parties are aware it’s happening.
