Meeting your twin flame is considered by some to be the most powerful soul encounter a person can experience.
What is a twin flame?
It’s based on the idea that sometimes one soul gets split into two bodies.
One of the main characteristics of a twin flame relationship is that it will be both challenging and healing.
But they also help you overcome them, and vice versayour twin flame will be equally affected by you.
Importantly, each person is still “whole” on their own, says licensed psychotherapistBabita Spinelli.
“There is a misnomer that a twin flame completes you,” she explains.
“In reality, relationships are meant to encourage you to be more complete in your own right.”
“Meeting a twin flame often feels like home,” she notes.
“They feel familiaran undeniably intense bond as though you have known them before.”
“Both of you will find that your past story has a lot of coincidences and similar experiences.”
Their shadow, for example, will be complemented by your light, and vice versa.
It’s as though their energy is always with you, always wanting to be closer.
It can be incredibly challenging, but it’s facilitating major growth for both of you.
At some point, one of you may walk away, out of fear, angeryou name it.
But you’ll often come back.
“You’ll find that things just keep bringing you together in random ways.
(These can also sometimes bekarmic relationships.)
You may even feel each other’s emotions or symptoms, Spinelli adds.
It’s a very expansive relationship that promotes a lot of growth.
Stage 2: Meeting
Once you meet, your world will be rocked.
Prepare to fall fast.
“When you meet, it is insane instant attraction,” Kaiser says.
Stage 3: The honeymoon phase
Yes, twin flames can have ahoneymoon phase, too!
In this phase, your relationship is new, meaningful, and positive.
How long it lasts depends on the couple, before challenges arise.
It’s often not about improving the relationship but rather improving yourself.
“All your insecurities will rear up as you start to question yourself and each other.”
“This is whereattachment issuesarise,” she says.
“Twin flame relationships have a ton of push-pull,” Kaiser says.
“Part of the chase is the reward for each person.
But there will be a time when one partner will pull away, and this causes separation.”
“This is the surrender into the relationship and big picture for you both,” Kaiser notes.
“You accept and allow each other to be who they are, flaws and all.
This is where you come back again.”
In this stage, you support each other and continue to facilitate growth for the other.
How are twin flames different from soul mates?
There’s a deep familiarity, and you feel very close, but you aren’t the same soul.
“Soul mates have contracted to be together, and they don’t always mean romantic love.
(Here’s more on thesoul mate vs. twin flamedistinction.)
Are twin flames always romantically involved?
This can take the form of a friend or even an acquaintance,” she says.
In most cases, though, romance seems to be more common.
Can you have only one twin flame?
Does everyone have a twin flame?
“It is a rare connection, and not everybody has one,” Kaiser says.
Can twin flames become toxic?
Yes,twin flame relationships can become toxic.
“In addition, when twin flames are apart, they may have a hard time functioning.
You may also end up defining your self-worth by the relationship.
These aspects of the twin flame relationship can result in an unhealthycodependent relationship.”
There is also a tendency to give your twin flameunconditional loveaka, letting way too much slide.
“Twin flames are notorious for being tumultuous if not handled with care,” Kaiser adds.
“If we don’t have self-love and awareness, they can become even more painful.”
Are twin flames meant to be together?
Sometimes twin flames are meant together, but not always.
The takeaway
Twin flame relationships are incredibly potent, powerful, and rare.
