So rather than feeling a 10/10 euphoric explosion of pleasure, the sub would feel a not-so-satisfying 2/10 instead.Yay.

Ruined orgasms can happen by accident, too.

In fact,youmight’ve actually had one in the past!

Morgan Mandriota

Does a ruined orgasm hurt or feel good for the person having it?

Does it even feel like anything at all?

Well, it can make the recipient feel…a few different things.

Kristie Overstreet, Ph.D., LPCC, LMHC, CST

Physically, it’s kinda like blue balls.

Emotionally, it can feel very frustrating, disappointing, and unsatisfying.

It can feel embarrassing, as if they have no control over their own body."

It’s especially important toprotect both people during BDSMwith clear communication, boundaries, and consent conversations.

Don’t know what to choose?

That’s where the art of teasing comes in!

“Slowly tease and build up the sexual tension inside his body.

So right as he’s about to orgasm, simply stop all movement and stimulation.

Hint: If that happens, you’re doing it right!

One results in maximum pleasure, whereas the other results in minimal pleasure.

(Can you guess which is which?)

A ruined orgasm is like the arousal petering out without climax after getting highly aroused,” Skyler explains.

What’s the difference?

Summary

Ruined orgasms may not sound physically pleasurable, so what’s the appeal for each party?

Turns out there are many reasons people might enjoy ruined orgasms.

For one, it’s afetish(predominantly among men).

However, a lot of the excitement boils down to having or lacking control.

You might be way more into it than you expect.