What is a female-led relationship, or FLR?
“FLR can be any relationship that is not ‘male-led.’
This could be anything from their finances to their attire to more menial tasks like chores.”
That said, today’s culture is thankfully starting to shed its old gender norms in general.
Nearly 30% of women in dual-income marriages make more money than their husbands, according to2018 census data.
Both partners provide income, with the woman earning the same or more money than the man.
“Everything is power.
Benefits of FLR for the man.
It’s a similar reason some men enjoycuckoldingorruined orgasmsit’s the power dynamic.
Benefits of FLR for the woman.
“Power means freedom.
“It also brings responsibilitysuddenly you are the one responsible for the big choices.
How to set up a female-led relationship:
Understand what you want.
“Go about understanding your own desires first,” Jean says.
“How do you want it to make you feel?
What aspects of your/their life do you want to be up for control?
What areas do you not want to be up for control?”
Communicate what you want early on.
“You don’t have to lead with it necessarily, though you could.”
Start slowly.
FLR, particularly when it involves higher levels of control, can be an intense dynamic.
“Start small if this is something you haven’t played with before.
The fantasy of something can often be much different from the reality,” Jean says.
ensure to continue communicating and checking in regularly to ensure the dynamic is feeling good for both parties.
Talk to other people who enjoy FLRs.
“Don’t rely solely on your potential partners for exploring or understanding this kink,” Jean recommends.
“Befriend individuals who fall on the same side of the power exchange to discuss their experience.
This will benefit you, as partners may come and go.
It also puts less onus on your partner to bear the weight of your kink and desires.”
