What does it mean to have “commitment issues”?
Commitment is a state or quality of being dedicated to a person, cause, or activity.
There is a sense of progression.
But a person with commitment issues struggles with this sense of dedication and taking the next steps.
Signs that someone has commitment issues.
What causes someone to have commitment issues?
No two people with commitment issues will look the same because they all originate from a different place.
Some people with commitment issues have experienced poor romantic relationships firsthand or have observed others in bad relationships.
Fear of not being in the “right” relationship.
A person might worry the person they’re with is ultimately not “the one.”
Fear of being in an unhealthy relationship.
Relationships end for many reasons.
However, the unknown or the fear of something bad happening can push an individual away from commitment.
Trust issues because of past hurts by people close to them.
They may project the last scenario onto their new partner.
Childhood trauma or abuse.
Unresolved trauma and abuse can rear its ugly little head at any time.
It is like an open wound.
Unmet childhood needs or attachment issues.
Complicated family dynamics while growing up.
Family can be tough, and what we learn from our families sticks with us.
How to get over your commitment issues.
Commitment issues aren’t something it’s possible for you to just get over overnight.
Overcoming commitment issues must be intentional in order for progress to be made.
In some cases, this may even be a lifelong journey, depending on the root cause of it.
The key, just like with any other issue, is to acknowledge it.
Stop running from it, and own the fact that you struggle in this area.
You cannot heal what you are unwilling to acknowledge.
Talking to a professional and working through some of your experiences can be helpful.
Learn about your attachment style.
Yourattachment style, which stems from your childhood, could be a major eye-opener to the commitment issues.
Consider couples' therapy.
Here’s ourfull guide to couples therapyfor more info.
Practice commitment in other areas of your life.
Take notice of how you feel in those situations, and have a candid conversation with your partner.
Consider whether monogamy is right for you.
Here is mbgsguide to ethical nonmonogamy, in case you’re curious about what else is out there.
What to do if you’re dating someone with commitment issues.
Commitment issues are not always a deal-breaker.
Ignoring red flags or deal-breakers is a sure way to end up in an unhappy relationship.
Don’t focus on forever but on the here and now.
Remember: Slow progress is still progress.
If you see they are trying, acknowledge their efforts.
