Love can inspire transcendence and a yearning to melt with your partner profoundly.
What does it mean to be clingy?
Clinginess is an act of resisting separation by holding tight or grasping onto something.
“It’s more helpful to use the term ‘anxious attachment.’
The terror of abandonment overrides their ability to stay cool since they are more focused on soothing their insecurities.
Patterns will commonly manifest in behaviors such as incessantly texting your S.O.
Where the behavior comes from.
Clinging actually serves as a unique tell that a person likely has a dysregulated relationship to their attachment system.
“Attachment develops in infancy between parent and child.
How a parent responds to their child impacts attachment style,” Sagaram adds.
“Attachment styles are a factor when understanding why some people are clingier than others,” Andre explains.
In response, you venture to wrap up the gap to gain more intimacy.
You may be insecure around the people in their life and believe your S.O.
How to stop being clingy in a relationship.
“you could be in a healthy relationship with an anxious attachment,” Sagaram says.
“It’s about learning how to manage the anxiety.”
The goal is to work toward having a moresecure attachment style, she adds.
Here are a few places to start:
Learn to manage your anxiety on your own.
The first step is awareness and admitting you might be perpetuating these patterns.
For strategies to work through the anxiety, Sagaram recommends surrounding yourself with people who are securely attached.
“Get comfortable asking for what you need in relationships.
Believe your partner when they reassure you.
Include your partner in the process.
“Ask them how they are understanding and experiencing your behavior.
Take small risks to build trust.
“Healing looks like getting clear on your needs.
“Start with low-risk situations, and build from there.
Vulnerability goes a long way in relationships and has the potential to heal anxious attachments.
The right person will want to make you feel emotionally safe in a relationship.”
Work with a therapist.
If a partner’s reassurances are still falling flat for you, she recommends getting professional help.
How to respond if your partner is being clingy.
When the relationship is going through rocky extremes, it’s essential to recalibrate and work on containing yourself.
Having a talk with your partner and naming specific boundaries will help developinterdependencein the relationship.
It’s good to remember to be empathetic to your partner during these conversations.
“I suggest lovingly bringing it to their attention.
I stresslovinglybecause tone can easily turn this conversation into an accusatory one,” Andre recommends.
The bottom line.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’re able to have.
