This matrilineal pain is sometimes called themother wound.
What is the mother wound?
If not resolved, this trauma then gets passed down to the next generation.
“You are highly impacted by your mother’s own trauma response.
Who experiences it.
The mother wound is generally seen as amother-daughter phenomenonbecause of patriarchy’s specific impact on women.
That said, King believes the mother wound doesn’t discriminate and can affect individuals across the gender spectrum.
The source of the wound.
The mother wound comes from what girls witness from their mothers in their formative years.
This belief creates a psychic limitation on who they want to be.
“When this does not happen, emotional difficulties may arise.”
The distortion manifests in behaviors such as codependency and people-pleasing.
One might conceptualize them as molecular wounds,” she explains.
Signs of harm from the mother wound.
But take it slow: It won’t be a linear process nurturing those neglected parts.
What is most needed in that moment is to soothe the little you.
She recommends communicating to yourinner childthrough visualization exercises, mindfulness, letter writing, or affirmations.
Offering your family and yourself forgiveness will help with the healing and release the rage.
If needed, set boundaries around the relationship and take space from her while you’re healing.
The bottom line.
That line aptly sums up the unique pain of this societal wound.
“Trauma can be intergenerational, but so can healing.”
