How positive is your relationship?
The ratio is pretty eye-opening.
The magic ratio of healthy relationships.
Positive interactions fill up the bank account, while negative interactions deplete it.
And importantly, that 5:1 ratio was specific to times of conflict.
Outside of conflict, the ratio between positive and negative interactions insuccessfulrelationships actuallygoes up to20:1, according to Gottman.
That’s20positive interactions for everyonenegative interaction.
What does this mean for your relationship?
The magic 5:1 ratio (and the 20:1 ratio!)
Because relationships should, more often than not, feel good.
The takeaway.
Every relationship will definitely have its ups and downs.
That said, ahealthy relationshipis made up ofoverwhelminglymore positive moments than negative ones.
Relationships can be hardat times, but your relationshipin generalshouldn’t feel hard.
It’s a nuanced distinction, but an important one.
