Abandonment issues can strike at any time.
For some people, it began in childhood, but for others it can have a later onset.
What are abandonment issues?
Typically, this is a learned response.
The normalization of these kinds of unhealthy tendencies can go on for quite some time.
Where the problems come from.
How they relate to attachment styles.
Abandonment issues usually indicate aninsecure attachment style.
As a result, you may have learned to meet your own needs and self-soothe.
In an adult relationship, this may look like detachment, limited communication, and emotional unavailability.
How abandonment issues manifest in relationships.
Some might be described as “too busy for relationships,” friendly but flighty, and/oremotionally unavailable.
They may suddenly withdraw from relationships that require vulnerability.
Insecurity
Insecurity and feelings of unworthiness are common among those with abandonment issues.
Fear of abandonment makes it hard to trust both other people and one’s own judgment about people.
If ignored, those underlying situations may still ignite anger many years later.
People may become easilytriggeredin situations that remind them of that time.
Trust issues
Abandonment issues often come down to a lack of trust in others.
Thesetrust issuesmay manifest as unhealthy emotional bonds that limit the ability to trust or be trusted.
Extreme cases may involve hermit-like behaviors.
Clinginess can happen even if there are signs that this person’s engagement is fleeting.
It could also look like engaging only in an intimate physical relationship but not an emotional one.
Communication is severely impaired or dishonest.
Inability to accept rejection
This behavior may go beyond simple denial.
Resolving the issues & healing.
The good thing is that knowing where these feelings come from is the first step to overcoming them.
If the other person won’t engage in respectful communication, it is time to reevaluate the relationship.
The bottom line.
People with a fear of abandonment have experienced some kind of loss or trauma.
