Sexual boredom might be a mask for discomfort.
The truth is, there’s no such thing as sexual boredom.
When people complain that they’re bored, its usually because uncomfortable feelings are coming up.
The brain does this nifty trick of bypassing uncomfortable feelings and going straight to boredom.
We tell ourselves we’re bored so we dont have to feel.
Boredom isnt pleasant, but its better than the alternative.
When couples come to me complaining of sexual boredom, my antenna goes up.
Often, it is the result of stagnant energy.
Sexual energy is part of life energy, and when it doesnt move, listlessness sets in.
Embrace the discomfort to overcome it.
All this said,perceptionof sexual boredom is very real.
Dont limit yourself to only a vague level of awareness.
What are you really feeling?
And how does that unpleasant or painful feeling sit with you?
If you find yourself wanting to escape it, keep your feet to the fire.
Expand and breathe into it.
That is your threshold into erotic integrity.
They then endeavor to retreat into their physical sensations to enhance their sexual experience.
Unfortunately, this effort is misguided and backfires, leading to alleged boredom.
Tuning out your lover decreases eroticism and intimacy and increases dissatisfaction.
In fact,lack of emotional connection can lead to sexless marriages.
Commit to continued emotional growth.
Boredom is the canary in the coal mine ofintimate connection.
It indicates that something is wrong, and you gotta pay attention.
To have more intense sex, you have to be open to your own emotional development.
What makes sexnotboring is the quality of presence people bring to it.
Eroticism is in the being, not the doing, of sex.
Theres no such thing as boredom.
There is, however, the option of erotic integrity.
And that’s always infinitely better.
