Enter the karezza method.
The karezza method’s origins.
Stockham coined the termkarezza, which she took from the Italian wordcarezza, meaning “caress.”
“It’s all about relaxing and being in the present moment.”
Benefits of the karezza method:
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It allows you to explore other forms of pleasure beyond the orgasm.
As Levison says, it’s all about being totally present in the moment.
It’s a more affectionate form of sex.
These actions stimulate the production of oxytocin, a neurotransmitter that promotesfeelings of bonding and love.
It allows you to get in sync with your partner.
It connects sex and spirituality.
In his seminal 1931 textThe Karezza Method,J.
William Lloyd writes, “Sex is very close to soul.
Whoso touches sex touches the secrets and centers of life…
The voice of sex, in its power, is as the voice of God.”
It’s accessible for people with disabilities or chronic sexual pain.
Positions, methods, and tips:
Create an intentional, sensual space.
Lloyd emphasizes the importance of having the right environment for karezzaideally an intimate, romantic bedroom atmosphere.
Concentrate yourselves entirely on your love and joy and the blending of yourselves into one.
Set intentions for the sexual session as a couple.
“Karezza requires preparatory mental exercise,” Lloyd writes.
Think relaxing hygge vibes rather than fiery lust vibes.
Start slowly and sensually.
Caress your partner’s face, their neck and shoulders, the sides of their waist.
Place a heavy emphasis on communication.
Ask your partner what feels good and how the sensations feel in their body.
As you touch each other, tell the other where they should linger with their touch.
Be direct about what maximizes your pleasure.
Compliment each other.
Grow eloquent, poetic in her praise," Lloyd writes.
“The Loved One can never be too much praised or appreciated by the Lover.
Spend plenty of time on these preparatory caresses.”
Don’t be afraid to get intimate!
Caress their penis or vulva.
When it feels right, move down to caress your partner’s genitals with the same gentle touch.
Ease off if that happens.
“Keep your thoughts on love, not passion,” Lloyd reminds.
“Be utterly relaxed physically…hold the thought of Peace.”
(Tantric yoni massage and tantric lingam massage might be great practices to try during karezza.)
Use face-to-face positions.
(For folks with a penis, it might help to practicesemen retentionalongside the karezza method.)
Take it slowly.
Karezza is a marathon, not a sprint.
Don’t expect to be able to practice it properly in between other acts.
“Most importantly be loving, kind, and patient with yourself and your partner.
