Love is mysterious and unpredictable, but can a personality test provide insight into our most intimate relationships?
TheEnneagram systemseeks to provide information to the ways we communicate and display love.
Positive traits
Ones are earnest and rooted in pragmatism and integrity.
They have a strong moral character and are committed to self-improvement.
Ones are on the quest for perfectionism and, consequently, find it hard to relax.
They may take on too many responsibilities, so it’s important to initiate rest and relaxation.
However, they may feel anxious and guilty about relaxing which can manifest as more criticism and self-blame.
To counteract this, help them access natural joy and encourage them to seek peace, instead of perfection.
Twos are likable, upbeat, and positive.
It’s easy to be your natural self around them.
Energetic Twos are extremely caring and compassionate.
They want to support and uplift the people they care about.
Twos are naturally in sync with what their partners want and need.
They may know what their partner wants, but they don’t know whattheywant.
Twos can overidentify with how others see them and overextend their help, an indication of poor boundaries.
Twos do best with people who don’t take advantage of their naturally generous spirit.
Threes are charming and self-assured.
Their incredible ability to make things happen can be attractive.
People are naturally drawn to their natural charisma and high-energy confidence.
In relationships, Threes bring their boundless enthusiasm and creativity to the table.
Fours are artistically inclined and bring an original and innovative flair to their personality.
Partners can find it freeing to be with someone who is so uniquely creative and emotionally aware.
Fours may also be attracted to a push-pull pattern since they have fears around abandonment and rejection.
Fives have a vivid mental life and are keenly perceptive.
Fives are head-oriented and can seem slightly removed from their emotions.
Their motivation for knowledge can move into hoarding if they’re too preoccupied with their interests.
Partners can feel wrongly iced-out if Fives need to think about some things.
Fives appreciate partners whogive them spaceto figure out how they feel.
Responsible Sixes are ardently loyal in their beliefs and their community.
They’re someone that people can steadfastly count on.
Sixes are trustworthy, prepared, thoughtful, and motivated by security.
They care deeply about nurturing their connections to their loved ones.
Sixes are loyal because they are fearful of being abandoned.
They can overcompensate in being hypervigilant in forecasting future problems.
Sixes appreciate partners who listen to their anxious thoughts and encourage them to find their own inner guidance.
Their curiosity makes them a multifaceted and lively individual.
Future-oriented Sevens have a full schedule for a reason.
They’re fleeing from possible negative emotions so they search for distraction to avoid being present and still.
They prefer to jump into decisions, making them impulsive and restless.
Sevens don’t do well with clinginess, so partners should have a full life too.
Partners should help Sevens explore their repressed emotions and slow down to smell the roses.
Assertive Eights are big personalities who enjoy taking on challenges.
They’re natural, strong leaders who fight for the underdog and aren’t afraid of confrontation.
If they’re close to you, an unexpected softness and childlike playfulness can emerge in intimacy.
Nines have a warm and harmonious aura, which is attributed to their happy-go-lucky nature.
Nines are extraordinarily patient, and partners will feel deeply acknowledged in the relationship.
Secure Nines care about maintaining internal/external peace and smoothing tension through empathy.
If they become resentful of not speaking up, they can become passive-aggressive.
