Breaking someone’s heartor wounding it, if you’re in a more casual relationshipcan suck.
This is why I chose to do my master’s research in the area.
Below, how to end a casual relationship the right way.
And thus, what do we tend to do?
In the form of more serious, long-term relationships, we avoid “the talk.”
We silently remove ourselves from the relationship emotionally.
In casual relationships, we stop answering text messages or provide short, uninterested answers.
We say we’re busy for the next couple of weeks.
We say we’re busy forever.
I used to say, “I just don’t like hurting people.”
To their face: no text messages, emails, or Post-its.
So ease up on yourexpectations.
Just set your goal to actually communicate to your in-the-dark admirer that you’re no longer interested.
Thus, the No.
1 tip for breaking up with someone is to actuallybreak up with them.
This is better than a phaseout orghosting.
Let’s change the culture from the all-or-nothing face-to-face or disappearing act to make space for the means in-between.
For example, don’t say, “I’mnot emotionally available” or “You deserve better.”
Those statements might be true, but they’re likely not the reason you want to end things.
Don’t keep sleeping with them if you know they want more
Usually one person wants more.
“), and texting them.
It will be confusing for them and will delaytheir healing process.
Being rejected hurts, angers, and confuses peeps.
It means you care.
Be kind to yourself.
Be prepared to experience some negative feedback
From that person and/or their allies.
Anger is a natural reaction to hurt.
The takeaway
At the end of it all, it sucks for both parties.
Hurting someone sucks, and so does getting hurt.
But remember that uncomfortable feelings and difficult experiences are all part of being a human.
And, if you feel guilty, it’s a good thingit means you have a conscience.
