Chemistry has a purpose.
It’s not random; it’s not a fluke.
There’s essential information in the attraction that occurs between two people.
Without understanding that there’s a secret order to love, we feel out of control.
And no one likes that.
I often hear people talk about chemistry as if it’s a bad thing.
Like we should be wary of the people we’re attracted to the most.
Not to mention, a sudden rush of intense emotions can just be scary in general.
Don’t worry; you’re not out of control.
It’s true that strong attraction makes for a wild ride in love.
But the question is: Is this really a bad thing?
Some people will say yes.
I’m still trying to figure that one out).
Of course, we all want love to be uncomplicated.
Butweare complicated, so it makes sense that our relationships and attractions will be the same.
This doesn’t mean that we stick around inrelationships that feel horrible to be in.
But it does mean we recognize that love will provoke us to grow into fuller versions of ourselves.
And this isn’t easy!
Chemistry can cause negative feelingsrecognize them, and move on.
Because of this, many of us categorize these highly attractive relationships as “bad.”
Acknowledge these feelings, understand why you are feeling them, and understand that the emotions are fundamentally normal.
It’s OK to feel chemistry with someoneand not move forward with a long-term relationship.
Lessons of love take on many forms.
Sometimes reconnecting with love meansleaving the relationship.
Not every instance of intense chemistry is meant to turn into a full-blown relationship.
Sometimes, you’re just meant to have a connection with someone, and then move on.
These can still teach you valuable lessons about love, other people, and yourself.
Those are important lessons that help us grow and evolve on our own journeys.
But with others, it’s possible for you to turn that chemistry into lasting love.
Sometimes reconnecting with love means sticking around and working through the challenges.
Eventually those feelings of out-of-control love will transform into something better: lasting love.
You just have to put in the work to get there.
The people you’re most attracted to are often your greatest teachers in love.
Show up for the lessons they have for you.
