Were constantly dealing with competing pressures.
Often couples dont talk about the problem, preferring to tell themselves, “It’ll sort itself out.
We’re just going through a dry spell.”
Here are the six tips I give every couple who’s struggling in this area:
1.
Nothing will change unless you speak up.
Say something about whats happening (or not happening).
As with most situations in life,howyou say it is vital.
Thats one reason we fear bringing it up.
So, its important not to come out of the gate blaming your partner or yourself.
Check in on the emotional state of your relationship.
Are you able to talk openly and compassionately about stuff that matters to you every daynot just sex?
If distance is building, you’re gonna wanna start talking about how youre feeling.
If it’s possible for you to’t, think about seeking professional help in getting the conversation started.
Generosity, kindness, and openness are sexy.
Building resentment, criticism, and distance only pushes each other away and makes it harder to reconnect.
Tell the truth in love.
Discussing and planning for sex and romance together can build anticipation and prolong excitement and pleasure.
Planning for sex is not an admission of defeat.
It’s a willingness to pivot your strategy to keep romance alive when the game has changed.
Make foreplay an everyday state of mind.
Fun and a sense of possibility are always alive between you.
Gather inspiration and resources.
Sex and love are creative expressions and everyone benefits from a little inspiration in their creativity.
Gather some resources and share them, making sure they also work for your partners taste.
Get into your own body.
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