With over two dozen techniques, we’re sure one of these will help you do the trick.
“So much of oral sex is the lead-up to it,” Richmond notes.
“Don’t dive right for the clitoris.
Keep the underwear on
Stroke the vulva or clit with underwear still on.
For clitoral stimulation
“The clitoris is queen,” Engle says.
“Always and forever.
Never forget it.”
Dance around it with the tongue
Starting off, it’s a good idea to go slow.
Dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it to start building sensation.
Constantly switching up techniques or speeds can make it harder for them to settle into the sensation.
Lots of different letters equals lots of sensation.
Grab a breast
Again, breasts and nipples are super sensitivesome folksorgasm from nipple playalone.
), you could use one or two fingers to penetrate the vagina.
Just dont “smash them inside willy-nilly,” Engle notes.
Lightly stroke the G-spot with your fingers in a curling motion while licking their clit.
Again, always remember to get consent, and ensure you know what their hygiene preferences are as well.
(Taking a test run in the shower is a good place to start if you’re squeamish.
Here’s ourshower sex guidefor inspo.)
Plus, the options are endless based on what you and your partner like.
Think vibrators, butt plugs, nipple clampswhatever you’re into, really.
We recommend themaude bandor any ofthese expert-approved picks.
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Oral sex from behind
From a doggy-style-like position, give them head from behind.
This position is also great if your partner is into rimming, as well.
(A dental dam might be a good investment if you’re new to this.)
(Here’s ourdirty talk guidefor more inspo.)
Remember to spread the labia here for more clitoral exposure.
Sitting down oral
Have the receiving partner sit in a chair.
With their legs draped over the sides of the chair, you’ve got easy access from below.
The pillow method
Put a pillows underneath their hips.
Our favorite is thisPrim pillowfrom Tabu.
“Making them feel comfortable and sexy in their body will help them relax.
A relaxed woman is one more likely to experience an orgasm!”
“Theyll appreciate knowing youre having as good of a time as they are,” Engle notes.
Make noise
Moan into their vulva, making sure they know you’re into it.
If they reach orgasm, keep goinggently!
So, don’t be afraid to ask what they want you to do to them, Engle says.
“Ask and then do exactly what they say.
If they aren’t sure, there’s plenty of room for experimentation.”
And of course, once you’re underway, pay attention to physical and verbal cues.
“If they’re pulling away or dead silent, try something else.
And you might always ask!”
