How do you know when to end a relationship?
If one or more of the following is true for you, you might be better off breaking up.
You talk about the relationship improving in some hypothetical future.
In other words, you’re convinced the relationship will be better “when.”
This can happen sometimes, but it’s not a guarantee.
If you knew they’d never change, would you still be in it for the long haul?
Don’t letfantasy bondskeep you in a relationship that’s going nowhere.
You’re feeling pressured to change, and it makes you feel less worthy as a result.
It’s another thing for them to ask you to lose 20 pounds or get a better job.
You want to feel loved by your partnerunconditionally.
If they want you to change, it’s likely aprojectionof their own insecurity.
Tell them to connect with a counselor and let you keep being you.
You feel loved and supported…but only when you’re happy.
You feel negative around your partner, regularly.
And you rarely hear “I’m sorry.”
Sure, “regular basis” is a time frame for you to define.
If your partner messes up occasionally and responds with remorse, that mightnotbe a reason to call it quits.
However, if the above feelings are common ones, it’s time to end the relationship.
Getting your partner to spend time with your friends and family is weirdly difficult.
Do you dread telling your partner about your sister-in-law’s dinner invitation?
Does attending your best friend’s birthday party go into hours of negotiations?
Do your co-workers sometimes question whether your partner, in fact, exists?
You, of course, do the same, right?
You feel needy or unreasonable every time you express a need.
Much of the time, you even end up apologizing for it.
If you don’t go, your self-esteem will.
You only feel secure in the relationship when you’re physically together.
It’s not your partner’s responsibility to heal those wounds (at least entirely).
You feel “hidden” by your partner.
Has it been seven months and you haven’t met their parents, who live just three blocks away?
Has your partner never posted a photo of you on Instagram or invited you to their office party?
You deserve to know your partner is proud of you andcommitted to the relationship.
You’re a markedly different person around your partner.
Many people find their “better half” makes them “a better person.”
Maybe we seem more enthusiastic, easygoing, or pretentious.
The takeaway.
If one or more of these signs resonated with you, investigate your thoughts and feelings further.
Connect with a therapist, confide in a friend, or journal about your experience.
