Breaking up isn’t only hard to doit’s a big decision.
Should I break up with my boyfriend?
How to make the decision.
Ask yourself these three questions: How is your relationship impacting you and your well-being?
Can your relationship issues can be resolved if both of you put in the effort?
Lastly, are you and your partner both willing to make the necessary changes?
Sometimes outsiders looking in can see things more clearly.
And on the flip side, the decision to stay doesnt mean you cant leave later on.
So, give yourself some compassion and consider both options with an open mind.
He disrespects your boundaries.
If theres any surefire sign that you gotta leave a relationship, its boundary violations.
You don’t feel safe with him.
If youre feeling constantly on edge around someone, its a sign that you dont feel fully safe.
Youre dating him for his potential.
Hes not perfect, but things will be different when…
Ever find yourself saying something along these lines?
Hes just going through a hard time right now, you say.
This can happen sometimes, but it’s not a guarantee.
If you knew they’d never change, would you still be in it for the long haul?
He breaks your trust repeatedly.
Does he regularly lie to you or otherwise break your trust?
Has he engaged in infidelity (or evenmicro-cheating) enough times to make you constantly worried?
You find it hard to really commit.
Culins says aninability to commitmay be a sign that you dont truly want to be in this relationship.
You constantly criticize him.
Do you find yourself constantly nitpicking and criticizing him?
Your lives arent compatible.
You might really love your boyfriend, but perhaps there are other issues at play in your relationship.
For example, you have different religions, different views on having kids, or different lifestyles.
You love to travel; he doesnt.
He loves to go out and party; youre a homebody.
You dont see a future, despite one of you wanting one.
FAQ:
How do I know if I should break up with my boyfriend?
Is it normal to think about breaking up with your boyfriend?
She recommends really exploring whats prompting you to be thinking so much about breaking up.
How long should I wait to break up with my boyfriend?
Dont drag things out, for both of your sakes.
4 signs you should stay together
You havent explored the option of staying together yet.
You want it to work, and hes putting in the effort.
According to Cullins, effort is a good sign that things can improve.
Its a personal issue thats getting in the way.
Maybe you havetrust issues, but youre working through them in therapy.
Maybe he has anavoidant attachment style, but hes trying to move past that old programming.
You usually feel the need to end relationships even when things are going well.
What if I regret breaking up with him?
Post-breakup regretis a common experience, but it doesnt always mean you made the wrong decision.
No situation is black or white, Cullins adds.
And remember: Breakups arent always permanent.
The takeaway.
See what can shift and be worked on.
If changes arent or cant be made, give yourselfpermission to walk away.
