What is sexual frustration?
While sexual frustration andhorninesscan intersect and share some similarities, they’re not the same.
Sexual frustration isn’t a medical diagnosis.
Anyone can experience this common sensation, so no one’s alone in the struggle.
Signs you’re sexually frustrated.
Below are some potential indicators of sexual frustration.
What causes the frustration?
Still, there are myriad reasons that create the building blocks of this natural feeling.
Because of that, she says loneliness can cause sexual frustration.
Without communication, sexual needs can go ignored or unmet.
Sex is also great for our physical health, says Cline, and it’s a great stress-reducer.
According to Cline, people crave connection emotionally andpsychologically, even if they’re bad at it.
“To be without connection in our lives goes against our wiring.”
There are other ways that commoditizing sex leads to sexual frustration, too.
In fact, Casperson says some people use sex as a vehicle for self-esteem.
What to do about it.
There are also plenty of outlets to help you relieve that energy, like exercise and meditation.
“In the therapy work, we call it self-care.”
“Mismatched sex drive [affects]everycouple,” says Casperson.
“We need to normalize this.”
Two of the biggest issues Cline sees in sex therapy are a lack of confidence and communication.
Find a compromise.
Sweet recommends people talk with their partners about how to best compromise on the mismatch of desire.
Don’t undervalue your own ability to get yourself off, independent of a partner," she says.
Be open to learning (and relearning).
Don’t hesitate to learn more about your own sexual needs, too.
Get the help of an expert.
Finding the language to express your needs and desires is difficult (and uncomfortable!
As you navigate this tension, remember you have tons of options to physically and emotionally relieve it.
Plus, you might use this opportunity to re-imagine your sex life completely.
