At some point or another, many of us receive mixed messages in our relationships.
Whether they mean to or not, our partnersor potential partnersmay say one thing and do something else.
Or maybe she regularly promises to have us over for dinner but then never sets up a date.
With mixed messages, there is aninconsistency between words and actions.
We don’t know what to believe or if we can count on the other person.
This uncertainty does not establish a good foundation for any relationship, let alone a romantic one.
But if there are some incongruences, then something will not feel right.
If we notice this uneasiness, then we should start paying attention to our partner’s actions.
Does he tell us he likes us for who we are but then suggests ways to change?
Maybe there’s a good reason he didn’t call though he said he would.
Perhaps she needs time to figure out when to invite you for dinner.
I can believe you when you are no longer with that other person.
Maybe she didn’t notice that she was saying one thing and doing something else.
Or maybe they are defensive and do not know what to say.
If the other person takes our concerns seriously and the mixed messages go awaygreat!
This means they really care about our relationship and are capable of following through on their word.
But if they continue to say one thing and do another, we likely need toreevaluate the relationship.
