What is the ego? These days we don’t run into dangers like that all that often. But the ego (industrious little thing that it is) needs to feel employed and important. It does this by inspiring fear, self-judgment, and judgment of others. How the ego shows up in our lives. Think about the source of any of your anxieties. or, even, “What will I wear to the…?"). All these future events your ego is worrying about?...
Your relationship is great. Suddenly off they go, and your comfortable IRL life together shifts into a temporarylong-distance relationship. Communicate about how you want to communicate. Some people find it laborious to text throughout the day; some want to feel connected every hour. Ask about their work. Actively listen to your partner. Get creative with technology. “Create interesting ways to communicate with your partner. FaceTime daily, send silly Marco Polo videos....
After almost 20 years of seeing my child every day, my son moved out. There are periods I don’t see or speak to him at all. This separation has brought an unexpected sense of loss. I observe my emotions, and the physical sensations that arise with them, without being overwhelmed. Don’t resist your feelings. Be honest with those around you about how you’re feeling. I talk to my husband and my friends with similarly aged children....
A topic of hot debate both in and out ofessential oilcircles is the controversy over ingestion. Everyone has an opinion about whether or not it’s safe. But is it really? Here’s what you oughta know. Here’s what the research says about ingesting essential oils. The do’s and don’ts of ingesting essential oils. The simple answer is yes, it’s possible for you to eat certain essential oils. In fact, you probably already have....
It’s hard to workout when you’re suffering from nose-blowing and unforgivable stomach flus. Here’s their take: If you have a cold, try yoga. “A gentle class may be best. I wouldn’t go to Bikram when you’re still feeling weak and achy. Trust me; you’ll get better faster if you do more restorative yoga poses and sleep.” If you have the flu, back off. I used to attempt to ‘sweat it out,’ but ended up prolonging illness every time....
In some ways, I believe I benefited from going in with a clear and open mind. What are the three levels of reiki? While certain components of each level are standardized, each reiki master will teach them a little differently. Attunement is what makes reiki unique from other forms of healing touch and energy work. It tends to clear blockages in the body and can lead to significant energy changes within the individual....
There are some things all healthy people seem to do at least once in their lives. And the notorious “master cleanse.” After eight days of being one of those spicy-lemon filled cleansers, I’ve made a decision. I’ll never do the master cleanse again. Yet, I have been recommending it to everyone. First, a refresher: What is the master cleanse? Before describing my love-hate relationship with the master cleanse, here’s a quick primer....
We’ve all had those days (months or years, anyone?) when it seems that there’s nothing but problem after problem. They threaten to knock us down and stop us from moving forward. Times like these can blindside us, but we can emerge from them much wiser and stronger.
But somewhere in my attempts to do more, I lost touch with the things I valued most. Now I’m experimenting with a simpler way of livingone that’s less stressful and more fulfilling. Select your top five. What are the five most important things in your life? Decide what you value most and commit your time to those things. We often agree to take on more than we can handle.Create some boundarieson your time....
Do you keep adjusting your boundaries to fit each relationship? If so, it’s time to reassess what boundaries mean for you. If you have trouble setting and sticking to healthy boundaries, these six tips should help. Know this sad truth: no boundaries = little self-esteem. The first step is admitting that your lack of boundaries stems from your lack of self-esteem. Decide what your core values are. What do you value?...
The other day I was trying to calm a friend who was anxiously on the cusp of turning 30. The conversation got me thinking about how much I’m loving my 30s. Being in your 30s does NOT mean you’re old. I used to think that hitting 35 would be like having one foot in the grave. Now, at 35, I feel younger and more relaxed than I did 10 years ago....
Swap processed snacks for fruit and tea. Since a cook was preparing all our meals, we didn’t have much access to snacks. Other than fresh fruit andcalming teas, no nibbles were available between meals. Don’t sneak foods. Save dessert for special occasions. Sugar and sweets were very limited at the center. My palate quickly adjusted, and I found that I didn’t even miss dessert. Instead, I appreciated my meals more and found that the taste of fruits and vegetables became more vibrant....
Now, I realize that there are no “shoulds.” There is only what is. It is not our thoughts, but the attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering." Would you argue with a raindrop? Raindrops aren’t personal and neither are thoughts." In other words, Katie advises us to meet our thoughts withunderstanding and productive questions. She proposes that behind every uncomfortable feeling, there’s a thought that’s driving it. Here are 18 lessons I learned from my life after divorce:
