Are you tired of getting in your own way?
Yet still, many people find themselves making decisions that don’t support theirgoals or intentions.
Lets start by understanding why you do what you do, from a neuropsychological perspective.
Why do we self-sabotage?
First, behaviors are driven by your thoughts and emotions.
Lets say you want to lose weight but you keep eating sweets in the break room.
The choice to eat the tasty snack is based on your thoughts and emotions.
Your hand does not reach into the bowl on its own accord.
It does not have its own brain which makes it move without your permission.
You might have a core belief that contradicts to your goal.
By design, core beliefs are held in the subconscious mind just outside of conscious awareness.
They act as blueprint instructions determining your choices.
Lets say you have a goal to improve your career.
These beliefs subconsciously override any desires to go for what you want.
Subconsciously you have already decided you are going to fail so you consciously choose not to follow through.
Given these beliefs are out of conscious awareness most people never examine them.
Consequently, every time you unknowingly repeat them, you strengthen them.
This is how habits are solidified.
You might have a pattern of overeating, avoiding the gym, or attracting thesame types of relationships.
Anytime a pattern of self-sabotage is present, the subconscious is involved.
Or that food is your only consistent form of pleasure.
Or that you havent eaten enough until you feel a certain full feeling.
Or that food is a well-deserved reward or comforting stress reliever.
Identify the perceived purpose or positive intention of the belief in your pattern.
What purpose or positive intention does (did) this belief serve?
Feel and release any emotion that you become aware of related to these beliefs.
Emotions are the glue holding you to your past experiences and patterns.
Identify alternate ways to meet this positive intention given your life and resources today.
Identify healthier beliefs regarding this area of your life and practice them.
For example, if you have a tendency to overeat, you could tell yourself:
