Let me just tell you now: None of that is going to solve your problem.
That’s because your experience of sexlike your experience of the rest of the worldstarts in your brain.
Negative Thought Pattern #1: Worrying about how you look naked.
If they were into me, they were into curvesand they wanted to see mine naked!
(Here are more smallways to stop hating your body, if that’s where you’re at.)
Negative Thought Pattern #2: Worrying about the other person’s pleasure more than your own.
For many women, this is most acute whenreceiving oral sexwithout reciprocating.
You’ll notice that I suggested very baby step thoughts here.
I totally believe that is true, and at this point in my journey, it works for me.
And you know what?
It doesn’t make you a bad feminist or ideologically impure.
Negative Thought Pattern #3: Feeling self-conscious asking for what you like or want.
You might be thinking that it’s embarrassing or awkward.
Whatever the thoughts producing your silent mime act in bed, they are worth working on!
Because that day may never come.
So there are a lot of thoughts in your brain making it uncomfortable to ask for what you want.
But you should do it anyway.
If you’re not getting what you like in bed, you’re not having great sex.
I’ll take that deal any day of the week.
But someone else’s behavior isn’t what makes you feel sexy or not.
It’s how you’re thinking about it.
The change has to start inside your brain.
