Chances are you have met men with interpersonal difficulties who needed to become attached to women who adore them.
This adoration is commonly described as a narcissistic supply that the mother gives the child during his early years.
If she doesn’t provide this, the danger of raising a narcissist arises.
The separation-individuation stage.
There is a stage of child development called separation-individuation during the first three years of life.
The importance of setting limits.
Parents often wonder how toset limits on their childrenand why this is so important.
They are separate individuals.
Children don’t want to feel more powerful than their parents.
In fact, it’s scary for a young child to feel more powerful than his mother.
If he is too powerful, he expects that he is entitled to more than a child should have.
He learns to manipulate and coerce others unrealistically when it serves his ambitions.
The individuation stage.
It refers to a developing concept of the self.
Each time he fails to get the recognition he longs for, he may feel very ashamed and vulnerable.
These early experiences greatly affect an individual’s lifelong lines of development.
Separation is important for autonomy.
The importance of being disappointed.
The child wants to become this same ideal.
That is, the narcissistic self wants to be looked at and admired.
Later in life, the narcissistic ideal is related to the man’s ambitions.
The normal narcissistic man reaches for his ambitions.
The pathological man is humiliated when he fails to live up to his ideals or ambitions.
While it is healthy to be motivated by ambitions, it is not healthy to love them unconditionally.
Then, there are emotions of disappointment that contain shame.
This shame results from infantile grandiose fantasies that are not restrained in the adult’s personality.
He experiences narcissistic humiliation when the admiration and confirmation of his ambitions are frustrated.
Still curious?
Here are some rapid-fire tips on how to not raise a narcissist:
