My friends have more money than I do.

I try not to be jealous, but sometimes I can’t help ithow do I address money envy?

“These are hard, complex, uncomfortable feelings,” says financial therapistBari Tessler.

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“We all hit different markers and different points in our life.

We all have differentpacing and rhythms.”

You are onyour own journey.

“And sometimes that can make youfeel shamefularound the envy.”

So what are you supposed to do?

“There’s no right way to do this.

We may stumble and feel uncomfortable.

That makes me sad, and I wish I could.

But I can’t right now, and that’s just the reality.'”

Talking about it helps lessen the simmering shame and tension.

My friend came from a wealthy family and had a good job.

And then we were expected to chip in for the friend.

But I spoke up, and said, ‘No I can’t pay for hers as well.’