Life is made up of little momentsgood and bad.
As humans, it’s normal to have experiences that are steeped in pain and sadness.
This emotional phenomenon, in which subtle hurts build up over time, is known as micro-trauma.
What is micro-trauma?
Types of micro-trauma.
Small slights and insults
One of the most common types of micro-trauma are what Crastnopol callslittle murders.
), it may feel like you better stay on high-alert to fend off the next anticipated attack.
But staying in a state of hypervigilance to protect your self-worth can be painful and constricting.
After all, you trusted them and thought you knew them fully.
Maybe I was wrong.
But then, was the whole relationship a lie?
“The decision to reduce contact occurs summarily and without a convincing explanation.
Chronic entrenchment
Most of us know someone who is overly resigned to their lot in life.
They’re almost stubbornly stuck in place, unable to move forward or backward.
“It feels familiar and, in some way, suited to oneself.
To make matters worse, that chronic indignation can sometimes bring out uglier tendencies.
“Self-righteous anger can stimulate reprisal and retribution rather than correction.”
After all, it doesn’t seemthatbad.
Everything feels so great inside the bubble!
Crastnopol characterizes this tension as “an intensified closeness that tends toward co-opting the other.”
There are no absolutes in life, and things are not black and white.
Breaking the cycle and healing from micro-trauma.
If you identify with any of these previous examples, know that you are not alone.
But how do we break free and move forward?
give a shot to identify the patterns.
“Do these occur in the aftermath of certain kinds of relating, with certain kinds of people?
Find ways to process your past.
It’s important to sit down and process past emotions deeply to avoid bringing residual pains to the present.
you’re free to also journal, meditate, or read books about micro-trauma as self-healing practices.
In your day-to-day living, take a stab at stay grounded in the present.
Movement provides the brain with sensory stimulation.
“It’s important to stay grounded in the present moment.”
Be patient with yourself.
There is no right or wrong way to release micro-trauma, so take it at your own pace.
Healing from any trauma takes time.
“Adopting new ways of relating will take experimentation and considerable practice,” Crastnopol confirms.
