The truth is, this is normal.
It’s normal to fear love and here’s why.
We have so many defenses to protect ourselves from the risk of loss.
We create distractions like work and all forms of busyness.
We constantly check our smartphones or becomeaddicted to screens.
We may not realize it, but these are all ways the fear of love manifests.
Other defense mechanisms that prohibit intimacy are more subtle.
These forms of protection occur in the realm of the mind and usually manifest as doubt.
We’ve all been hurt.
It seems almost impossible to grow up in this culture without absorbing this lie about yourself.
In short, you’re just not quite right because you’re notenough.
The ego hates the unknown.
The ego hates being vulnerable.
In our bully culture, the ego knows it’s either bully or be bullied.
It’s our deepest longing, yes, but it’s also our deepest fear.
Being scared of love and scared of relationships is a deep fear that takes time to heal.
It’s not the truth."
But for others, even contacting this belief can take a long time.
You are not without flaws, but yourself-worthis not dependent on being flawless.
You are worthy of love because you exist.
Knowing this in your head and knowing this in your cells are two different experiences, however.
The ego believes the loss will hurt less if we shut down the passageways of the heart.
But it doesn’t work that way: Loss hurts no matter what.
