How does an open relationship work?
First, let’s define some terms.
Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is different from cheating.
A core tenet of the practice is honesty and consent.
There is no secrecy or coercion involved.
CNM is an agreement made between partners to have other sexually and/or emotionally intimate partners.
There are various forms this can take.
How to know if an open relationship is right for you.
People choose CNM for a variety of reasons.
Many people reject the idea of monogamy on principle.
That said, there are some reasons that exploring non-monogamy may be a bad idea.
It isn’t going to solve the problems in your relationship, sexual or otherwise.
It takes a solid foundation to move into non-monogamy.
If you have issues with your partner, fix those first!
It’s also a problem to go into CNM if you’re only doing it to keep your partner.
It’s important that both people truly want this arrangement.
CNM requires a high degree of emotional intelligence and emotional regulation.
You also need a basic respect and concern for each other.
Some people view these responses as learned, and they work to overcome these emotional tendencies.
Others view them as innate emotions and work to communicate and regulate their own emotional state.
See the following section.)
Lastly, CNM should not follow an affair or involve any secrecy.
It needs to be free of any stain of dishonesty or infidelity for it to work.
How to begin opening up your relationship.
It helps to have clear agreements that shape your open relationship.
(it’s possible for you to check outOpening UporThe Ethical Slutfor more guidance.)
Many people make a conscious choice to be in a monogamous relationship andare happy and satisfied.
Many others enjoy a relationship structure like those described above that allow for other partners.
The goal is to create an intimate partnership that works the best for both of you.
