One early December, my boyfriend and I had our first date.
What could he see in me?
I am not a cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.
What is the equivalent of “cougar” for a man who has a younger partner?
(Correct: there isnt one.)
My boyfriend and I are not immune to the effects of these judgments.
So, how do I cope when the judgments become overwhelming?
I remind myself that no one can predict the future.
People say to him, But what if she cant have children?
Or, What if you have to take care of her when shes older?
I believe that this is someone elses issue and not my own.
I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.
I know that this is something for them to process, and not for me to have to explain.
I love him more openly.
He is the kindest, most compassionate, funniest individual I have ever encountered.
I have now resolved that it is not my job to win other people over.
I choose to act with courage and grace.
When I read or see negative behavior toward me, I sometimes want to scream and cry.
Be a catalyst for change: start with yourself and aid others in shedding stereotypes.
