Do you sometimes, or oftentimes, feel like you’re invisible to others?
Here are four ways I started to see myself againand got others to see me too.
I stopped ignoring my feelings.
When I was ignoring my feelings, I was essentially telling myself that they were not important.
And when my feelings were not important to me, they certainly weren’t important to others.
when unpleasant feelings arrive, try tolabel them instead.
Be as specific as possibledo you feel anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, lonely, or bored?
This simple practice will help you tune into your feelings and own them.
I started advocating for myself.
But I rarely spoke up for myself.
Not advocating for myself meant that others didn’t need to treat me with caring and respect.
Do you silently endure others judgmental, discounting or disrespectful behavior toward you?
I stopped accepting one-way relationships.
Get honest with yourself about the one-way relationships in your life.
Instead of putting more energy into them, prioritize the relationships that make you feel fully seen and heard.
I broke up with people-pleasing.
I was brought up to be a caretakerto take care of others' feelings while ignoring my own.
I tried constantly to kindly others in the hopes that they would care about me.
Are you focused on being nice to others rather than being loving towards yourself?
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice person, of courseexcept when your niceness has an agenda attached.
Try out this 7-step plan to stop people-pleasing and start advocating for your needs.
(It’s pegged to the holidays, but applicable all year round.)
