Remember it’s healthy to want alone time in a relationship.
It’s easy to get lost in a relationship.
Without meaning to, we stop investing time and energy into nurturing our own interests and ways of being.
Eventually, one or both partners may ultimately feel suffocated.
The healthiest of relationships allow for a solid amount of couple time andalsoa healthy dose of alone time.
Be sensitive when approaching this conversation.
Avoid blaming or shaming your partner.
Come to the table knowing what you want.
The greater clarity you have, the more likely your partner will understand and appreciate your desires.
Be as specific with yourself as possible so that you know what would makeyoufeel good.
Whatever it is you want and need, be prepared to discuss it openly with your partner.
Pay attention to your feelings.
Once you’ve evaluated your wants and needs, focus on your inner feelings.
Does not having enough alone time leave you feeling stressed, anxious, depressed, or irritable?
Emphasize how much you love your partner.
For example, you might say, “I love you and our relationship so much.
I wanted to talk with you about a personal need I have.”
Use “I” statements.
This strategy will help your partner feel safe and secure during the conversation.
For example, you might say, “It would make me feel so good to take guitar lessons.
I’ve found a class that I’d like to attend for two hours Saturday morning.
Having a bit of solitary time to de-stress each day would feel great.”
Make it about helping them get more alone time too.
Your partner may also enjoy knowing that you’ve considered their needs.
The stronger and more relaxed you feel, the better your delivery will be.
