How to talk dirty with confidence
Ease into it.
Give yourself permission to go at your own pace.
You’re on nobody’s schedule to learn how to dirty talk except your own.
(Here’s ourfull guide to sexting, in case you’re curious.)
Focus on what turns you on.
“It’s just more about, does it make you feel hot?”
What makes a phrase dirty is how sexually aroused you get from hearing it.
(Here’sexactly how to turn someone on, by the way.)
Don’t overthink it.
The dirty things you say to your partner should feel natural and flow with the moment.
“Good sex is supposed to be freeing and explorative,” Boodram explains.
Let dirty talk elevate your sexual experience, not hinder it.
The sooner you disregard the pressure you put on yourself, the easier exploring the sexual experience will be.
Avoid any specifics.
Something as simple as “I love your body” can get the ball rolling.
And if you want to throw in a few adjectives, generalslikefat, huge,andwetwork really well.
Get comfy with your partner.
The comfort you feel in your relationship has everything to do with what you’re willing to try sexually.
Communicate, explore, and communicate some more.
A greater sense of intimacy can blossom in your relationship by learning how to talk dirty.
Refrain from judging.
“If someone says something a bit off, just roll with it and add to it.”
Be the person that champions someone’ssexual fantasy, not crushes it.
I don’t have any panties on.
I need to feel you against me.
I need your lips against my skin.
Just wait until we get home.
I want your mouth on me.
I want you to fuck me from behind.
I want you inside of me.
I want to see you play with yourself.
I want you to undress me.
I want you between my thighs.
I want to taste you.
I want your cock in my mouth.
In the moment:
Hold me.
Caress me all over.
Whisper in my ear.
Play with my clit.
Recognitions:
You feel so good inside me.
You do that so well.
Your cock/pussy feels amazing.
I love your body.
I love it when you grit your teeth.
I love it when you whisper in my ear.
I love it when you touch me there.
I love the way you moan.
I love the way you taste.
One-word classics:
Harder.
To finish with:
I love how hard you might make me come.
Your tongue is magical.
You want to go again?
Sexy things to say to your partner
Dirty talk isn’t only for the bedroom.
Memories:
I keep thinking about your body against mine.
I can’t get you out of my mind.
Remember last night when we [insert sexual activity]?
What sex position was your favorite?
My body misses your [insert body part].
Thinking about you makes me want to touch myself.
Future plans:
When you get here, I’m going to [insert sexual activity].
I really liked it when we [insert sexual activity].
Let’s try that again.
I can’t wait to fuck you tonight.
What do you think about doing [insert sexual activity] the next time we’re in bed?
I’ve been looking forward to sitting on your face all day long.
I know it’s been a long day.
That’s why I’m going to [insert sexual activity] when you get home.
Observations:
That thing you do with your [insert body part] really makes me hot.
It makes me horny when you [fill in the blank].
You’re always on my mind.
I want you so bad.
You look good enough to put in my mouth today.
You make me so wet/hard when you moan.
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Personalize these phrases to fit your relationship, and match the language you and your partner already use.
Remember, one couple’s vanilla is another couple’skink.
Longing:
I wish I was there.
I wish I could hold you right now.
I miss the way you feel inside of me.
I miss the way you taste.
When I get back, I’m going to [insert sexual activity].
I can’t wait until I can go down on you again.
I’m going to fuck you so hard when I see you.
I’ll rip your clothes off the moment I see you.
In the mood:
Thinking about you is making me so wet/hard right now.
I want to see you naked…right now.
Just hearing your voice makes me want to touch myself.
I love it when you talk like that.
Tell me what you want to do to me.
I want to feel how wet/hard you are.
Play with yourself for me.
Whisper dirty things to me.
Tell me what you want from me.
Questions for playtime:
What are you wearing right now?
Are you touching yourself?
Do you want to have FaceTime sex?
Do you miss my body?
What else do you like when I do it to you?
Do you want to listen to me come?
The way you’re sexting me is hot; want to show me what you’re talking about?
I’m touching myself.
Do you want to taste?
