This common defense mechanism is known as deflection, and it can be tricky to spot in the moment.
Here’s how to tell when someone is deflecting, plus what to do about it.
What is deflection?
This inclination toward shifting blame can be seen in anyone from young children to grown adults.
This allows them to escape having to take accountability for their own actions.
That might sound like:
Projection
Deflection and projection often go hand in hand.
For example, say someone has cheated on their significant other.
In doing so, they’re projecting their own guilt onto their partner.
In any case, a telltale sign of a deflective attack will include the word “you.”
Examples of a verbal attack include:
The psychology behind why people deflect.
So, why exactly do people deflect?
Simply stated, the ego is fragile, and some people’s egos are more fragile than others.
The idea is that the individual is trying to preserve their own image.
Saltz says there are many, many reasons people may deflect.
Perhaps they have low self-esteem or anxiety, or the particular subject is very triggering for them.
How it relates to narcissism.
Not to say everybody who deflects is anarcissist, but every narcissistwilldeflect.
How to respond when someone is deflecting.
Some people simply can’t accept when they’ve done something wrong.
The bottom line.
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