So you have a crush, you know that much.
What are your next steps?
If you are crushing from afar, slowly enter the conversation.
it’s best to get some perspectivecrushes tend to make us toss reason out the window.
Flirting and dating are both based inconversations, which require the voices of two or more people, right?
If you have some basis already, you might be more direct.
Just talk to them," says Court.
“Ask them lots ofquestions about themselves.
Don’t pretend to be uninterested or distant.
Don’t wait hours and hours to reply to their texts because you want to seem cool.
At the same time, don’t abandon your other relationships or plans to pursue someone.
Approach it like a fledgling friendship.”
If possible, start the conversation in person.
Of course, there are a lot of obstacles that might keep you from admitting your feelings in person.
Another bonus of written communication is that the other person can process and respond on their own time."
Consider how much this will impact your relationship with an acquaintance, casual friend, or otherwise.
Don’t let your crush’s response determine your self-worth.
“Women are generally socialized to define themselves by their interpersonal relationships.
When you stop letting other people define your self-worth, the possibility of rejection becomes less scary.
“Crushes can be exhilarating but also painful and consuming,” she says.
Be mindful of their feelings if they’re not interested in pursuing a relationship.
Take time to redefine your own boundaries if you get a “no.”
Consider the possibility that you may not be able to remain friends with your crush until you get stronger.
Give your platonic bond the space it needs to breathe.
Just say, “No worries!”
and back off from contacting them regularly.
It was hard for me to work up the courage to tell you how I was feeling.
I do want to go back to being friends, but I need a little space first.
I hope that in time things will return to normal.”
The bottom line.
Whether your crush’s answer is a yes or a no, a crush can be a good thing.
You’ll learn something from the experience of desiring another person.
