Here’s what to know about a sexless marriage and when you should walk away from one.
Asexless relationshipis a relationship where there’s little to no sexual activity occurring between the couple.
Your partner refuses to work through this issue with you.
Bring up your concerns in a collaborative way, without blaming and shaming.
Your relationship issues are so big that there are other reasons to divorce.
Lack of sex in a relationship can be a symptom of other significant issues.
If you have power struggles, infidelity, lying, or cruelty, your relationship may not survive.
In all these examples, your issues go way deeper than the lack of sex in your marriage.
If they aren’t addressed and changed, you may very well decide toleave your marriage.
Sometimes couples have what we call an “erotic conflict.”
Sometimes, what we want is mutually exclusive with the desires of our partner.
Likewise, a person’ssexual orientationcould get in the wayif they are not attracted to the gender of their partner.
Some couples decide to address this by using fantasy andmasturbationwhile staying married.
But if those options aren’t desirable, you may decide to divorce over this lack ofsexual compatibility.
Some couples rarely or never have sex, and both people are totally fine with that.
As with so many other reasons to end a marriage, it’s worth trying to improve it first.
First and foremost, it’s important to consider the reasons for the lack of sex.
Relatedly, the changes we face as we age may mean we have to adjust our expectations.
You should also consider how thelack of sex in your marriageis related to other issues between you.
Making changes toimprove your overall relationship healthusually has to happen before sexual intimacy can be created in a relationship.
A 2018 survey that foundover one in four relationships are sexless.
We don’t know specifically what percentage of these couples were unhappy with the lack of sex, however.
We also know thatabout 50% of marriages end in divorce.
But so far, there is no study that ties these stats together.
Many people are certainly considering divorce.
Lack of sex is usually a symptom of other things.
Things change in our lives in ways that make our sex life more difficult.
All of these are normal and common experiences.
