Despite what you might think, orgasms don’t actually start anywhere near the clitoris.
Yes, you read that correctly.
All of your sexual desire and feelings start in the mind.
It’s your body’s biggest sex organ.
That means your brain is also the key to having multiple orgasms.
It plays a crucial role in getting you to that next big O.
The brain and pleasure.
This same brain center lights up when we think about sexual fantasies, pleasurable past sexual experiences, etc.
It then sends a signal to the clitoris that you’re feeling sexual pleasure.
This physiological response then sends a positively correlated response to the brain saying,Yes!
I am turned on and ready to GO!
The brain and clit are in cahoots!
Yes, anyone with a clitoris can have multiple orgasms.
The clitoris is actually kind of huge and contains over 8,000 nerve-endings.
Theentire clitoral structuregoes far deeper into the body than the little nubbin at the top of the vulva.
That nub is the glans clitoris, and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.
The clitoris contains extended bulbs and wings that extend into the labia and abdomen.
(If you want to see some images to get a better idea, check outthisandthis.)
Why you’re struggling to have multiple orgasms.
Have you wanted to have multiple orgasms but just can’t seem to “get there”?
Have you wanted to have multiple orgasms, but your pleasure sort of peters out after the first one?
This is likely due to your mind.
Remember, our brains aresuperpowerful.
There are several ways in which we subconsciously stunt ourselves.
People raised as women are not told their pleasure matters.
Research tells us these mental narratives come with physical consequences.
That’s how interconnected out brains are to our genitals.
How can you have multiple orgasms if you have such negative thoughts around sexuality and yourself?
I’m finished."
It closes us off.
We manifest this limitation through our negative thinking.
How to hack your brain to have multiple orgasms.
The first thing we have to do isbreak the cycle in our minds.
I’m here to tell you, you absolutelycanhave multiple orgasms.
Start with positive thinking.
Tell yourself out loud in the mirror:I am capable of having as much pleasure as I want.
And I deserve it.
When you’re with a partner, tell yourself over and over again that your pleasure is bountiful.
Put aside the negative thoughts.
Think with determination:I am going to have more than one orgasm today.
Masturbation gives you an opportunity to try different things without the pressure of having a partner present.
What better excuse could there be?
There are so many ways to touch a clitoris that don’t involve straight-up touching it directly.
Stimulate your nipples, run your vibrator over your outer and inner labia.
Don’t be afraid to try different things.
Your partner is not responsible for your orgasm.Youare.
So learn what you like and get confident in your body.
Make partnered sex about you.
Do sex stuff that actually gives you pleasure.
Spoiler: Vaginal intercoursevery, very rarelyresults in an orgasm for clitoris-owning people.
You probably won’t have one orgasm, let alone multiple, with vaginal intercourse alone.
If you’ve been masturbating, you know what brings you pleasure.
Get your partner on board to have sex sessions entirely devoted to your pleasure.
Give yourself a break.
Remember, if you feel too overstimulated, take a break.
Have a make-out session for a few minutes while your body gets ready for more pleasure.
Lastly, if you don’t experience multiple orgasms, that’s OK too.
At the very least, you’ll find out a whole lot about your threshold for experiencing pleasure.
That’s what sex is really about.
Orgasms are great, but theyaren’t the most important thing.
