When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, everything is about them.
It’s confusing and exhausting.
One day, you get it together to leave.
Just because they treat you like garbage doesn’t mean it’s easy to get over a narcissist.
In fact, this bang out of breakup is often one of the hardest to move on from.
So here’s exactly how to get over a narcissist, once and for all.
What is a narcissist?
After youleave your abusive relationship, this habitual pattern of analysis will continue until you force it to stop.
Do this again and again.
Most experts say it takes three months to change a habit.
Don’t fall for it.
The best way to do this is to maintainzero contact.
Don’t call or text, and block them on social media.
There’s a reasonthe no-contact ruleis advice given by most experts.
We’ll explain that further at the end of this list.
Leaving may also be feeding into new stresses or fears, making youranxietyeven worse.
Long, slow deep breathing,yoga, dancing, swimming, and other types of exercise.
Do something every day, every time you need it.
(Here are a few ways topractice self-care after a breakup.)
Keep busy
With narcissists, a relationship is always about power.
They have it; you don’t.
This sounds really unpleasant, and it was, but it did fill the time.
Now that no one is doing that, there’s a big, empty void in your days.
Life just isn’t as exciting anymore.
When you do stay home,meditateto calm your mind.
Know that you don’t need to always look outside for fulfillment; it can be found within.
Give yourself a pass.
Narcissists are experts at seduction, and you’re only human.
Know that your innocence is a good thing.
It means you have an open and trusting heartsomething your narcissist struggles with.
You may have sufferedverbal abuseas well.
Narcissists want you to stay insecure, so feeling sure of yourself is foreign territory for you right now.
You may have also lost trust in your own judgment as a result ofbeing gaslightedfor so long.
Where to begin healing from all this?
So if your relationship was hot, you’re still going to want them sexually.
It’s just a fact.
Pick out a goodvibrator.
Remember, they must have a source of energy to feed on at all times.
They always confirm their supply is secure.
Whomever they trap next will simply be a better business deal.
Convert your jealousy into compassion for them.
Take time to honor your grief by going beneath your anger and finding the sadness.
As you comfort yourself, acknowledge the process of welcoming yourself back home.
Feel grateful for the emotions you had to keep bottled up for yearseven the difficult ones.
They can now bubble up because you’re finally with someone who loves and accepts all of youyourself!
I almost fell for his sexual seduction, but somehow I repeatedly said no until he finally left.
As soon as he was out the door, I started hating him.
I remember this pattern from when we were “together.”
Preparing yourself with ways to get through your low moments is totally worth it.
You don’t need to set yourself back like I did.
Only you’ll be wiser, stronger, and better for having conquered it.
