When it comes to love, our rational mind isn’t running the show.
The journey back to who you are will take time and effort.
Be extraordinarily compassionate to yourself.
This doesn’t mean to push those negative thoughts away or think they are problematic.
Just let them be, and do so with care and love.
Let the painful thoughts pass by like floating clouds instead of piercing you like fatal thunderbolts.
Forgive yourself for mistakes and forgive your ex for the pain caused.
You regret what you did to them.
They likely regret what they did to you.
Your relationship may feel like a colossal failure because of everything that went wrong.
There is always plenty of blame and regret to go around for everyone in the relationship.
There is plenty of pain and heartache that each of you caused.
You must find it within yourself to forgive your ex and let go of the past.
Do it because it’s the right thing to do and because you’re a kind, compassionate person.
You may not be able to move on until you forgive your ex.
Create space for healing and love.
Much of your relationship may have been about being the “right” person for your ex.
If you’ve forgotten who you are, remember that the authentic you is still there.
Start listening to those strong feelings guiding you.
Stop listening to the chatter of your ex and everyone else around you.
Practice being present with yourself, by yourself, and working on your self-esteem.
Try visualizing yourself as a confident person.
Be sure to take care of yourself and do good things for yourself while healing.
(Here are a bunch ofways to practice self-care after a breakup.)
Create a no-negativity zone.
Do things you enjoy with people who uplift you and support you.
Be kinder to others.
All of the previous tips will help you cultivate more love and compassion for yourself.
But one way to continually cultivate and expand the love within is to think about serving others.
Service can be a great self-esteem booster.
When you give of yourself without any expectation of return, you begin to feel lifted up.
Think about ways to connect with others and direct your positive energy outward.
Your past relationship coming to an end doesn’t need to be a reason to squash your self-esteem.
Instead, use your breakup as a springboard topractice self-love, show compassion, and rebuild confidence.
