What turns you on?
Don’t assume what turns you on will be the same as what turns on other people.
We’re surrounded by sexualized images and advertising.
We’re exposed to glamorized sex in movies and exaggerated sex in mainstream pornography.
And understanding our individual desires is the key to creating our best possible sex life.
The truth is, what’s arousing will be different for each of us.
Each person’s eroticism is completely unique, like a fingerprint.
Take time to explore your own body, slowly and intentionally.
First things first: Spend some time learning more about the physical side of your pleasure and arousal.
Where and how do you like to be stimulated?
What parts of your body respond to touch?
How do you want to be touched?
What kind of pace do you gotta respond and get aroused?
you’re able to do this alone in solo sex play or with a partner.
Pinpoint the sexual dynamics that intrigue you.
The mental aspects of pleasure hold a lot of power.
It’s been said the mind is the biggest sex organ because our mind is where our eroticism lives.
you might discover your own erotic template by paying attention to what arouses you.
Do you have specific sexual fantasies?
What makes the best sex you’ve ever had stand out?
What have you read or watched that really turned you on?Whywas it so sexy to you?
That “why” is key.
Read and watch erotica to see what really flips your switch.
This is how to learn what the elements of your eroticism are.
Just because we are turned on by thinking about something doesn’t mean we want todoit.
(A perfect example is a rape fantasy.
Write your own fantasies.
When you create your own stories, these scenarios only include elements that arouseyou.
There are no off-putting aspects that you have to overlook.
This means these stories are more personal, tooyour fantasies are pure erotic material that revealyourcore erotic nature.
Experiment with different types of eroticism and fantasies with a partner.
If you’re nervous, start slow and ease into it.
Simply share with each other some of the scenes that really flip your switch.
Or you might add some bondage or power play to what you’re already enjoying with a lover.
It’s OK if you and your partner don’t find the same things arousing.
Take turns.
Go into this with the agreement not to criticize each other.
Exploring your eroticism with a partner can open new levels of intimacy as well as sexual intensity.
