Gaslighting has been a therapeutic buzzword swarming around the interwebs for quite some time.
Common gaslighting phrases:
Another way toknow when gaslighting is happeningto you?
This punch in of back-and-forth is exhausting and can affect your self-trust.
Stand firm in your truth.
The goal of gaslighting is to have the receiving person doubt their perception.
To combat this, stand firm in your truth.
That means believing in yourself, your feelings, and what you know to be true.
It means owning your perception (i.e., what you saw, heard, and felt).
Write things down.
Journal about your experiences, and get into the habit of reviewing your writings.
Keep a record of what is happening.
A journal is a great way to maintain a record of what is happening over time.
This will help you feel confident about what you know to be true.
Keep the conversation simple.
Know your purpose when entering the conversation.
What would you like to accomplish?
What are the main points that you would like to get across?
A person who is gaslighting will blatantly lie, shift the narrative, and will minimize how you feel.
Be willing to leave the conversation.
The person doing the gaslighting may also use tactics such as deflecting and minimizing.
Don’t worry about trying to “outsmart” the gaslighter.
The best way to outsmart a gaslighter is to disengage.
It is more worth it to walk away with your perception intact.
What to say when someone is gaslighting you.
Gaslighting lies on a spectrum.
People who are dealing with gaslighting often wonder about the person’s motives.
If the gaslighter doesn’t know they’re gaslighting, it gives them a sense of hope.
But importantly, what would actually change if you knew what their motive was?
Increase your support system, and share your truth.
The bottom line.
Standing firm in your truth and leaning into your support system can help ground you back into reality.
