Where there is mystery in relationships,there is also curiosity, intrigue and desire.
Mystery is the energy that turns us on.
So what do you do if you’re in a committed relationship?
How can you create more mystery with the person you already know so well?
Well, that’s what this article is all about.
The act of getting to know someone is, by definition, the opposite of experiencing them as mysterious.
And let’s be clear: this isnota problem!
We all likefamiliarity …but we also likenovelty.
We all likecloseness …but we also likespace.
Life is always in flux, and so are we.
Because of this, the point of life is tostrivefor balance again and again.
It’s very common for us to get stuck in the mundane, the steady, the scheduled.
And in many ways, we gravitate toward this responsible impulse.
It’s from that emotional place that we then start to crave newness and mystery again as we should!
Luckily, inviting more mystery back into your relationship is totally doable.
So let’s get to that!
Ditch the schedule from time to time.
I understand that schedules keep us on-track to accomplish things in our lives.
However, too much scheduling leads to boredom.
It’s just true.
You have to mix-it-up if you want life to feel passionate and exciting.
Predictability doesnotget our juices flowing!
If your relationship feels stale or rigid, make a choice to invite spontaneity in.
Ditch work with your partner and go on an adventure.
Don’t go to sleep at your usual bedtime.
Sleep in past your alarm.
Turn off the TV and Internet for a week and see what happens.
You know you want to!
We all want to too much constraint makes us crazy!
Here’s the thing: rebellion willalwaysbe mysterious and therefore attractive.
Rules are important because they keep us safe and in-line.
But too much rigidity will eventually feel restrictive and monotonous.
So c’mon, for the sake of your happiness, break some rules!
Don’t work out.
Do anything that feels naughty or “bad.”
And this next part is essential: don’t feel guilty about it!
Let yourself bask in being free and unrestricted.
The freedom in your life and relationship will increase as a result.
Novelty re-engages our senses in a new way; it makes us feel alive!
So do something surprising.
And if it’s “naughty"andsurprising … even better!
Catch your partner off guard.
Do something he/she wouldn’t expect.
Get (really) playful.
Everything that I suggested so far centers around being playful.
Again, scheduled, predictable energy is the opposite of playful energy.
When that happens, all the mystery and fun drains away.
Though don’t worry about it if this happens to you.
Instead, simply make thedecisionto cultivate your joy and laughter again and make this decision a priority!
Doing so will lighten the energy of your life, and the people around you.
We have the capacity to feel a range of energies, right this very moment.
The trick is to embody that energy within yourself, and let it lead the way.
Tap into the mystery within you, and let it be your guide.
